This has been one of those incredible weeks where I became so excited I tried to do everything, literally all at once! We are stepping into a very exciting place at Elegant Femme, and I’ve had so many amazing opportunities to work with such a variety of individuals and expand our vision in unprecedented ways for all of you.
But I have to be honest, I got a little carried away this week, and found myself feeling occasionally overwhelmed from my New Yorker - DOING, just too much...
There was so much excitement! I had to slow down, and start ENJOYING everything we have created so far. So I called on my Frenchie, and went off to the Burke Williams Spa for 6 hours with my sister. Yes, I said 6 hours. I really, really needed a break!
I had two business breakthroughs while I was there meditating and drinking Gardenia Tea (you'll hear about the breakthroughs soon)!
So remember, if you truly want to discover inner harmony and balance in your daily life, an attentive exploration of your own “Femme Types” is absolutely essential to your personal development, sense of freedom and wellbeing...
Do, Be and Enjoy!
What have you been doing to relax and explore your own Femme Types?
With love and beauty always... Tara Marino P.S I welcome your comments! .
Somewhere in our upbringing, way back in our formative years - when we were just working out where everything went and what everything meant - we somehow came to the conclusion that a closed door was a barrier, both literally and figuratively. The fact that we could not proceed along this particular path represented a significant hurdle. Metaphorically speaking, we come across many closed doors in our lives and often when we least expect them. Often our first reactions are dismay and despair, but we must learn to train ourselves, to look at this as a minor setback and merely a point in time. When the door closes, another one opens for us.
I know it's very easy to get disheartened, as we already have to lug around so many challenging projects and positions on a daily basis, but if you focus on your three different Femme Types, one or all of them can help you break through and pass any obstacle that you’re faced with.
You may be faced with a situation right now and you don't know what to do. Your secret is to change your perspective for a moment and see how one of your inner three women could look at this from a different angle; she could open up another door, with a bright new future beckoning beyond.
If you’re facing challenges at work, or have even been unfortunate enough to lose your job, ask your inner Indie to help and she will show you the path ahead. Indie is in tune with a broader perspective and while your inner New Yorker would certainly be distraught by this development, as productive and "no-nonsense” as she is, the Indie can be a very calming, powerful and comforting being, providing the perfect direction, right now.
Remember, when everything seems negative and you can't believe that your current circumstances are even happening to you, that within you is the ability to call on one of your Femme Types to provide the very lift that you need. Go ahead, open that other door, enhance your Indie!
With love and beauty always... Tara Marino P.S I welcome your comments! .
Here is a quick personal video message for you. Find out how I constantly use the 3 women system to make sure I am living authentically and how you can too.
In this really short video you’ll get details on how to find out if you’re a Pleaser or a Teaser. Believe me you want to know this.
Also we have been working on a new program for you. It’s almost ready...
Ps. Tomorrow night I am hosting a call that you will not want to miss. Find out if your a Pleaser or a Teaser and why you don’t want to be one of them.
With love and beauty always... Tara Marino P.S I welcome your comments! .
Tara,
This is an excellent video! I so appreciate you being so genuine and authentic in front of so many people. Women...take notice...pay attention to Tara and how she is teaching you to pay attention to yourself.
Peace and Abundance,
Deborah Tutnauer
Lori commented on 16-Jan-2010 01:36 PM
Tara, thank you for this! This is exactly the journey I started on about 6 months ago. I was a wife and a mother for 27 years, and suddenly I was divorced and my children were grown and out on their own. So at 49 years old, I am finding out who I am again, and what I want in the rest of my life. You have to face some tough realities when you're honest in answering those questions. And in the last few months, I have found a lot of women who are asking the same questions. Hugs, Lori
Tara, You are such a wonderful blessing to your followers! So courageous. I always look forward to hearing from you and will do so in 2010. You are an inspiration! I appreciate your compassion, authenticity and how well spoken you are. I predict we'll be hearing a lot more from you in the future! Here's to 'imperfection!'
Tara Marino commented on 21-Jan-2010 11:19 PM
Deborah, you are such a loyal fan! Thank you for your words of support
Tara Marino commented on 21-Jan-2010 11:21 PM
Lori,
Congratulations on your new found journey! Finding yourself at 49 is such a blessing;) Yes, it does take courage and strength, but the journey is soooo worth it. On the other side is a woman your children will admire and a woman you will LOVE. Here is to your perfect;) Which one of the 3 women speaks to you?
Tara commented on 21-Jan-2010 11:23 PM
Darcy!
The amazing author of Chic Mom Mag...thank you for your kind words. We are all here to support each other! May 2010 be a year when you kick off those dancing shoes;) Which of the 3 women caught your attention? The Frenchie?
A little while back I told you not to set your goals for the New Year - so were you able to hold off?
Why?
You want the truth? Goals NEVER helped me, in fact they made things worse. I always felt MORE pressure, it just seemed like another to do list. Can you relate?
There was actually a much deeper issue. On the surface everything seemed to be 'perfect.' But underneath I was completely overwhelmed and my life was way out of balance! I was so lonely inside that I remember locking myself in my life size closet with a glass of wine and crying softly.
I felt so guilty for not being happy, but there was something missing. I wasn't living MY life. I was an impostor.
Why am I telling you all this?
Because there are so many women out there that are suffering. I know what it's like. I was trying so hard to be perfect. My days were spent with an overwhelming to do list! I needed to slow down, get off autopilot and start taking care of myself, but I had NO idea how.
* My relationship with my husband was suffering.
* When we had sex, it was bland.
* I felt insecure and my body image was in the tubes.
* Money was coming in, but I had NO idea where it was going.
* I felt totally out of control in my picture perfect suburban life.
I remember how bad it hurt... There was a space inside me that wanted more, that knew I was capable of being happy and of living a life of my dreams...of my design. I needed to unlock, unleash and discover the REAL ME.
But how?
I stopped with the goals and started asking new questions.
* What made me feel excited, sexy, and inspired?
* What made my heart race and flutter with anticipation?
* What was my vision for my life?
This was the first secret I discovered to living the life designed for me.
It's your life. Not anyone elses. So don't plan a resolution list or a life for that matter that is for someone else.
Ask new questions.
In the next couple of weeks, I want to share it all with you, no holding back! But first I want you to tell me, Why do you think women are suffering in silence, trying so hard to be perfect? It breaks my heart, there are so many women out there who are feeling this!
Why do women try so HARD to be perfect, what are your thoughts?
With love and beauty always... Tara Marino P.S I welcome your comments! .
Once again you are right on. I look forward to what is next. Many Blessings, Heather
Anne-Claire Holland-Jakobi commented on 12-Jan-2010 12:54 PM
On "my" surface, everything is far from perfect, but who needs perfection? I gave up making New Year Resolutions, years ago, because they always turned out to be a self-unfulfilling prophecy and only served to make me feel worse about myself. YES! To your three questions. As to why women are suffering in silence, trying to be perfect? ... Because the age-old Rules still apply, even though men and women have been thrown into confusion by the admirable efforts of women - from the suffragettes to present-day women to bring about necessary changes in the roles of both genders in today's society. I would like to say a lot more, but am having a hard time expressing myself in this minimal space. For now, all I can say is, women should stop competing, and learn how to truly support each other. The rest will fall into place. :) <3
Joanne commented on 12-Jan-2010 01:09 PM
Your right. I try so hard to be perfect yet it feels like an impossible task. How do you do it all?
Hi Tara,
I believe that it is because as women we are held to the standard of "Beauty". We are expected to be beautiful. Beauty in this culture is presented as a very static ideal of perfection. Therefore Women=Beauty=perfection
Debora commented on 12-Jan-2010 02:10 PM
I'm looking forward to your posts, Tara! Thank you!!
I think women want to feel loved and cherished and when we try to be perfect we think we can earn someone's love and be more worthy of someone's love. Maybe by trying to be perfect we want to demonstrate that we 'are' perfect (we don't want to accept that we're not).
Lori commented on 12-Jan-2010 04:44 PM
I can so relate to this. I was divorced last year and realized that for 27 years I have been a wife and a mom. Suddenly I was divorced and my children are grown and gone, so who am I? Then someone asked me "what makes you happy?" "What brings you joy?" I had no freaking idea, because as women, we tend to put everyone else before ourselves, and be perfect lest anyone see us as less than that. The last six months have been quite a journey for me to find the answers to those questions, and I'm still on that journey.
Tara Marino commented on 12-Jan-2010 10:52 PM
Joanne, yes the quest for perfection can be a lonely one...BUT there is a way. There is a secret. I have been asked this so many times and I see so many women suffering...it is time-keep your eyes open as I will be sharing so much more in the next week. Stay strong my dear...
Bridget Schoeffel commented on 12-Jan-2010 10:55 PM
Tara- it was like reading the thought that ONCE raced thru my mind. U say ONCE because thanks to YOU I feel that I AM ALIVE again... The REAL ME... not the me I tried to make so perfect and neglected the already 'perfect' me ;) excited for our call tomorrow
Tara Marino commented on 12-Jan-2010 10:57 PM
Yes Lori, start with those questions...but you are also correct that most women have NO idea what makes them happy or brings them joy. They have spent so much time taking care of everyone else that they are lost. Many women hide behind perfection and don't allow their real truth to shine forward, what happens is that after a period of time it is hard to distinguish between what is truth and what is not. Women find themselves lost, overwhelmed, incomplete and WAY out of balance. Continue your journey my dear, you are doing wonderful!
Wendy commented on 13-Jan-2010 07:10 AM
OMG, you are right on! Many of us suffer silently trying to convince ourselves this is the way we need to be and don't want to fail in the eyes of friends/family. Asking for help and moving to the inner happiness is very challenging but should not be. Out of balance and spinning out of control is what happens. Thanks for helping and addressing these key issues with women!
Tara commented on 21-Jan-2010 11:26 PM
Wendy,
Thanks for your honesty! Stepping towards balance and away from perceived perfection can be a daunting task. But you know what is more daunting? Living a life designed for someone else. We are all in this together.
It's time to make a change!
Tara,
I like how open you are about your feelings and I agree with you. I've always been a high achiever and with that means I really get down on myself when I don't make progress on the dreaded To-Do list. I can relate with the feelings of needing to be perfect in all the roles of a business owner, spouse, mom and friend. Thanks for addressing this topic.
This has been one of those incredible weeks where I became so excited I tried to do everything, literally all at once! We are stepping into a very exciting place at Elegant Femme, and I’ve had so many amazing opportunities to work with such a variety of individuals and expand our vision in unprecedented ways for all of you.
Somewhere in our upbringing, way back in our formative years - when we were just working out where everything went and what everything meant - we somehow came to the conclusion that a closed door was a barrier, both literally and figuratively. The fact that we could not proceed along this particular path represented a significant hurdle. Metaphorically speaking, we come across many closed doors in our lives and often when we least expect them. Often our first reactions are dismay and despair, but we must learn to train ourselves, to look at this as a minor setback and merely a point in time. When the door closes, another one opens for us.
A little while back I told you not to set your goals for the New Year - so were you able to hold off? 
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