This has been one of those incredible weeks where I became so excited I tried to do everything, literally all at once! We are stepping into a very exciting place at Elegant Femme, and I’ve had so many amazing opportunities to work with such a variety of individuals and expand our vision in unprecedented ways for all of you.
But I have to be honest, I got a little carried away this week, and found myself feeling occasionally overwhelmed from my New Yorker - DOING, just too much...
There was so much excitement! I had to slow down, and start ENJOYING everything we have created so far. So I called on my Frenchie, and went off to the Burke Williams Spa for 6 hours with my sister. Yes, I said 6 hours. I really, really needed a break!
I had two business breakthroughs while I was there meditating and drinking Gardenia Tea (you'll hear about the breakthroughs soon)!
So remember, if you truly want to discover inner harmony and balance in your daily life, an attentive exploration of your own “Femme Types” is absolutely essential to your personal development, sense of freedom and wellbeing...
Do, Be and Enjoy!
What have you been doing to relax and explore your own Femme Types?
With love and beauty always... Tara Marino P.S I welcome your comments! .
Somewhere in our upbringing, way back in our formative years - when we were just working out where everything went and what everything meant - we somehow came to the conclusion that a closed door was a barrier, both literally and figuratively. The fact that we could not proceed along this particular path represented a significant hurdle. Metaphorically speaking, we come across many closed doors in our lives and often when we least expect them. Often our first reactions are dismay and despair, but we must learn to train ourselves, to look at this as a minor setback and merely a point in time. When the door closes, another one opens for us.
I know it's very easy to get disheartened, as we already have to lug around so many challenging projects and positions on a daily basis, but if you focus on your three different Femme Types, one or all of them can help you break through and pass any obstacle that you’re faced with.
You may be faced with a situation right now and you don't know what to do. Your secret is to change your perspective for a moment and see how one of your inner three women could look at this from a different angle; she could open up another door, with a bright new future beckoning beyond.
If you’re facing challenges at work, or have even been unfortunate enough to lose your job, ask your inner Indie to help and she will show you the path ahead. Indie is in tune with a broader perspective and while your inner New Yorker would certainly be distraught by this development, as productive and "no-nonsense” as she is, the Indie can be a very calming, powerful and comforting being, providing the perfect direction, right now.
Remember, when everything seems negative and you can't believe that your current circumstances are even happening to you, that within you is the ability to call on one of your Femme Types to provide the very lift that you need. Go ahead, open that other door, enhance your Indie!
With love and beauty always... Tara Marino P.S I welcome your comments! .
Do you feel that you have come to the "end of your tether" and that you
crave a way to balance your life in perfect harmony? In truth you are
looking for something which is already inside you and you need to
unlock, unleash and uncover your inner "perfect."
Life is so complex these days that we seem to be always in conflict,
unsure of where we are going and unable to truly enjoy our
relationships. Work seems to spill over into every aspect of our lives
and we don't get time to devote to ourselves and our inner well-being
anymore.
Don't assume that this type of conflict is "standard procedure" for our
lives. There is no reason why you should go through life without truly
enjoying it, feeling fulfilled and waking up each morning with a great
outlook – able to look forward to whatever the day has in store for you!
I have some great news for you -- I am launching a coaching program to
help you change everything for the better and define the word "perfect"
in your life. Your Perfect
is a VIP program for those who were not able to access the first
version of my course, which sold out rather quickly. Our original
course was also devoted to you -- to help you get more out of your life
and to release your inner personas -- the Indie, the Frenchie and the
New Yorker -- at the most appropriate times and in harmony.
If you have often felt that you are running around in ever decreasing
circles and not sure how to escape from this madness, you owe it to
yourself to join our coaching program. I will take you through, step by
step, the action that you must take. This will all be a revelation to
you and you will share your experience within a community of women, who
are really ready to redefine the word perfection as it applies to their
lives.
Don't wait another moment. There's no need for you to dread that alarm
clock in the morning and to hate the thought of facing a new day of
confusion, drudgery and depression. Find out how you can sign up for
our coaching program here - Your Perfect -and please don't delay as this has a limited availability -- first-come, first-served!
I look forward to welcoming you in!
With love and beauty always... Tara Marino P.S I welcome your comments! .
Yes! You can own "Your Perfect." My guess is you know you can too. If you have a version of perfect that fits you, than who am I anyone or else to tell you that you can’t own Your Perfect?
It turns out it's not a cut and dry case though. In fact, the English dictionary says the idea of women owning their perfect is wrong. And we're going to challenge it!
You see the very means which we use to communicate, the English language, doesn't allow for us to own Our Perfect. Well, I have decided to fight to get that changed… for all of us. And I could use your help.
Let me tell you the full story... When I coach women through "The 3 Women System," my clients find “Their Perfect." It’s the definition of what their version of perfect is for themselves.
I discovered my perfect when I began creating Elegant Femme. So recently, I decided to release a new coaching program, and I knew exactly what to name it!
Your Perfect was just what women were experiencing with "The 3 Women System," and so the name was born… Your Perfect Coaching Program.
BUT, I realized almost immediately when I typed it into a Word document that spell check told me and everyone else that you cannot own “perfect."
I shared my belief that women could own their perfect last week on a telecall - and the result was a resounding YES, as women from across the World emailed me saying, "Yes Tara, I want to own my perfect."
So this gave me a brilliant idea. What if we as women go to the authorities themselves and give them a chance to amend their error?
I am considering starting a petition of 1 million women who are ready to own their perfect. So tell me, what do you think? Is it possible to own YOUR Perfect? Are you ready to take off the mask of perfection and truly live Your Perfect? I want your comments, and I want to know what you think. Will you sign this controversial petition, and do your part for yourself, and for women everywhere?
With love and beauty always... Tara Marino P.S I welcome your comments! .
Here is a quick personal video message for you. Find out how I constantly use the 3 women system to make sure I am living authentically and how you can too.
In this really short video you’ll get details on how to find out if you’re a Pleaser or a Teaser. Believe me you want to know this.
Also we have been working on a new program for you. It’s almost ready...
Ps. Tomorrow night I am hosting a call that you will not want to miss. Find out if your a Pleaser or a Teaser and why you don’t want to be one of them.
With love and beauty always... Tara Marino P.S I welcome your comments! .
Recently I completed something I had been thinking about for years. In essence, my very well thought out plan was ready to be unveiled.
The work and planning that went into this was pristine and it was going to be a complete success.
If I went forward with it lives would be changed. I had committed to the plan and I was feeling I had to follow through, so much was already in motion. I felt like I couldn't stop.
But there was a problem. My planning did not take something HUGE into consideration.
You see yesterday was the birthday of my first born son Mason. He passed away from pneumonia back in 02. Please don't feel sad when I say that, it was one of the most beautiful gifts of my life. It taught me compassion, and I needed to remember that gift of compassion for myself yesterday.
So here is the lesson and the mind shift you can put into place today to make the “RIGHT” choices.
It will help you avoid getting into the cycle of no time with too many things to do and feeling like you are on a treadmill with no OFF button. The truth is you do have a choice and so did I.
After I looked at what I was about to do yesterday I realized it was all business (New Yorker for the newbies;)
At first I thought it would be ok because this is always a very powerful day for me. In fact some of my biggest successes have actually materialized on this day.
Then as I was taking my walk to the beach yesterday I thought about my spirit (Indie;).
Sometimes one of your 3 women is in the zone and can almost dominate you. It didn’t happen to me this time, but it almost did.
Rather than letting my New Yorker take the stage, I decided to honor my Indie and take some time for me.
I changed my perspective just a little and noticed that I was in danger of allowing myself to get out of balance.
By acting quickly you too can make a “change of plans” that best supports your ultimate vision, the authentic YOU.
We have these opportunities every day. Sometimes it is as small as taking 5 minutes to get up from your desk and taking a walk to go smell some flowers in your garden.
Other times it is something even more monumental that is so obvious that you just have to say YES to you.
Honoring these times will give you what you need and are missing in your life, a true sense of balance. I encourage you to keep your eyes open when these presents show up in your life. Ask yourself:
"What can I do today to make a “Change in Plans” that will allow me to really take care of myself?"
Have a beautiful day and please hug the people you love.
With love and beauty always... Tara Marino P.S I welcome your comments! .
Thank you Tara! I find myself working 24/7 and also forgetting about me and my spiritual side and taking care of myself. This brings me to another point, I have made no time to address my wardrobe over the last couple of years and need to desparately. :)
commented on 06-Feb-2010 09:32 AM
You are soooo right! The New Yorker days are so outwardly rewarding so it's easy to give them more of my time. It's very important to remind/force yourself to remain in balance. I think I'm going to create a super fun family day today! Thanks for the inspiration!
Bridget commented on 06-Feb-2010 09:41 AM
Tara. You amaze me. You lead by exams and that is what is so wonderful bout you as a coach. To sit back and honor you after all the time you have spent on your big 'idea'...it's to true how we tend to get into overdrive because 'we have to'. No, we don't! We CHOOSE to. I love what you said about just getting up to go take a shot walk and smell some flowers in the yard. We don't have to ditch life and avoid responsabilities that yes we may have to tend do, but we can choose to listen to our 3 women and ensure we feed them ALL so we can be balance. I am SO happy I have you as a coach. You ARE helping me change my life!! Hugs xoxoxo Also, I want to send you belated love and peace as you remeber the wonderful day that Mason blessed your life. Sounds like he was INDEED an EXTRA SPECIAL gift and he chose to enter your life as he did for a
very specific reason. What an amazing little sole. :)
Tara commented on 06-Feb-2010 10:06 AM
Wendy,
Just saw this on my way out to my spiritual physchology class and I could not agree more. Take time to breathe today and connect with your Indie. About the wardrobe, a part of allowing self care is really stepping into a wardrobe that represents your authentic self-keep an eye out for what we have coming up with Elegant Femme, clothes and design are one of my favorite things. Have a beautiful day Wendy
Tara commented on 06-Feb-2010 10:12 AM
Bridget,
Thank you for the beautiful compliments. You have been amazing in your course, the motivation, action and self love I have seen you exhibit over the past 4 months has been incredible. I hear you listening more and more to your inner voice and truly expressing your authentic self. You are stepping into a life designed specifically for you, BY you and you are right the choice is ours. You have taken your 3 women and embraced them, your results are yours!
Thank you for the blessing you sent to Mason.
Tara,
Thank you for sharing your need to "change your plans" in order to honor what you were really needing in the moment. I look forward to following your success here and across the web.
;)
Amy (@LotusAmy on twitter)
Ingrid commented on 08-Feb-2010 12:37 PM
thanyou so much tara, as always for your beautiful words. It somehow seems that your words come in handy just for the time I´m living with. Have an excelent day and please keep on you good work!
Tara,
You come from the heart on this one, as well as from the wise sage within. Man or woman, when we make that change of plans and take care of ourselves then we have more to share with others.
Happy Valentine's Day!
Sherrie Rose
The Love Linguist
I wanted to share the results from the recent survey I sent out. There were a few big surprises. Also I put together a gift for you based on the results.
I tried something new with this video. So watch that first to see the results.
I definitely was. Now I own it!!! You'll see what I mean in this short video.
Of course you will also get my system that will get you out of overwhelm and bring balance to YOUR life.
And as a little bonus here is the Lifestyle Design handout for you. I got so many emails from women who don't know what they want. This will help bring you clarity on the real you.
Take a few minutes for yourself and watch this video right now.
With Love and Beauty Always,
Tara
PS. When your done watching the video leave your comments here. I want to hear from you.
With love and beauty always... Tara Marino P.S I welcome your comments! .
Really enjoyed taking time to reflect and think about who I am and what I want. Being a mother and wife can cause you to forget who you are and what "you" want. Great tool for making me more aware of who I am and who I will become.
Tara Marino commented on 21-Jan-2010 11:17 PM
Carrie, thank you for your comment! Yes, being a wife and a mom can send you into a space of 'Who am I?' very quickly. Congratulations for being willing to step into a greater sense of self. It sounds like you are ready to go. Which one of the 3 women struck a cord with you?
Lisa Krengel commented on 22-Jan-2010 03:19 PM
I need to work on ALL 3. I was just telling my sister the other day that if someone asked me my favorite...anything...I don't even know if I could answer any more. I've printed the worksheet. I'll get to work! :-)
Lisa Gay commented on 23-Jan-2010 08:39 AM
For some reason I can't open the worksheet. Could someone send it to me b e-mail? I could definitley use some work on all 3 as well. Thanks Tara for such great videos. I always enjoy them so much!
Tara commented on 24-Jan-2010 07:45 PM
Lisa,
Absolutely please send an email to my assistant at Ann@ElegantFemme.com and we will make sure you get it;) Also keep your eyes out we will be giving you some more free info on the 3 women and how to incorporate them immediately into your life.
Tara- great video! I'm all about taking care of my Frenchie! By doing so, via tuning in an listening to what she needs, I find that my New Yorker is more in check and my Indie is quite happy with the balance! Keep the video's coming!
We see the telltale signs but don't really recognize them. After a
period of time we wonder why there is this strange atmosphere, almost
like a tension in the air whenever you and your husband are together.
Conversation seems to be almost monosyllabic and the interaction
between you is about as warm as a Siberian winter. What is happening
here?
You know we really don't need a counselor to tell us how life's
pressures can wear on even the best relationship. Financial matters
always seem at the forefront, there is a constant worry about job
security due to this brutal recession and both husband and wife tend to
focus much more on “serious” issues than they really should. When your
relationship with your husband seems to be flatlining, remember that
you can always turn to your Frenchie within, to salvage the situation
before it's too late!
The Frenchie is your free-spirited, beautiful, sexy, attractive,
radiant and gorgeous inner self. Because she is so free-spirited, she
is often overpowered by the focused New Yorker, or laid back by the
introspective Indie. Nurture her for a while and see how she can help
you to put the spark back into your marriage, reinvigorating any
relationship. Let the Frenchie toss her hair back and inject some fun
back into your marriage. Don't let the sour outside world crash your
wonderful world together. There is a time and a place for everything
and nobody said that you were not allowed to have fun with your lives,
even though those dour faced television newscasters would have you
think otherwise.
With love and beauty always... Tara Marino P.S I welcome your comments! .
Last week I told you a little bit about what a women's life coach is, and this week, I really wanted to speak to those of you who are feeling a little sceptical about life coaching.
If you feel that you are a fully functioning member of society, with a lot to be thankful for, a great career or position as a loving mother and an active, busy household to take care of, you may well feel that life is good - and indeed it is. However, if you ever have the feeling that there's something just “not right” and maybe you're missing an element or two in your life, then you may well need to turn to the services of a women's life coach.
Sometimes women discount the idea of a lifestyle coach or even openly oppose the notion. However, if you find yourself seeking out the company of a close friend of confidant and engaging in lengthy conversations about certain elements of the direction of your life, then the chances are that you are looking for a clearer path.
As life can be so complicated these days, it can often leave us with a sense of some confusion at the end of each day. It has been a busy and productive 24 hours, but have we really got the most out of our potential, and are we really allowing and planning for the future sufficiently?
Don't confuse the lifestyle coach with a therapist, as some do. If you feel that you are in need of healing in some way, or have some repressed emotions or significant issues from the past, then you may indeed want to consult with a professional therapist. Assuming all is well in that department, have you ever stopped to consider how much more potential your life could have if you engaged with someone who was able, from a professional perspective, to pull out even more of your potential, capitalize on your successes and really bring out your strengths?
Far from being an unnecessary expense, a program with a life coach could open up opportunities that you never dreamed of, and pay for itself over and again, with a far more productive and enjoyable future.
This week, think about what you would change in your life - maybe you want to relight the flame which has gone out with your husband? Stop worrying about whether you're an inadequate mother because you have a desire to go back to work - it's natural to have ambitions. You may simply want to change the way you see yourself in the mirror. If you feel you want to share any of your thoughts, please email me on Tara@ElegantFemme.com and I will endeavour to offer advice and answer as many of your questions as possible through my weekly newsletter.
With love and beauty always... Tara Marino P.S I welcome your comments! .
This has been one of those incredible weeks where I became so excited I tried to do everything, literally all at once! We are stepping into a very exciting place at Elegant Femme, and I’ve had so many amazing opportunities to work with such a variety of individuals and expand our vision in unprecedented ways for all of you.
Somewhere in our upbringing, way back in our formative years - when we were just working out where everything went and what everything meant - we somehow came to the conclusion that a closed door was a barrier, both literally and figuratively. The fact that we could not proceed along this particular path represented a significant hurdle. Metaphorically speaking, we come across many closed doors in our lives and often when we least expect them. Often our first reactions are dismay and despair, but we must learn to train ourselves, to look at this as a minor setback and merely a point in time. When the door closes, another one opens for us.
Do you feel that you have come to the "end of your tether" and that you
crave a way to balance your life in perfect harmony? In truth you are
looking for something which is already inside you and you need to
unlock, unleash and uncover your inner "perfect."
Yes! You can own "Your Perfect." My guess is you know you can too. If you have a version of perfect that fits you, than who am I anyone or else to tell you that you can’t own Your Perfect? 
Last week I told you a little bit about what a women's life coach is, and this week, I really wanted to speak to those of you who are feeling a little sceptical about life coaching. 
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