What does it look like for you to go all in?

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When you’re in the car with someone for 12 hours, you end up talking about all kinds of things.

And when it’s Tara Marino sitting next to you, every once in a while, she fires a zinger right at you.

This past weekend we were driving back from watching Dom’s soccer game. We started talking about our life. Our dreams. Our desires.

This is pretty standard for a road trip conversation between us.

And it’s also standard for Tara to get right to the heart. She doesn’t mince words.

She asks the question that make you think.

And I’m swiping her question for you today so that you think a little and peel back another layer of the onion.

“What does it look like for you to go all in?”

Going “all in” is a poker term. It means risking all of your chips on a hand.

When you go all in, you’re betting on yourself to win.

I love this question because there is space for each unique soul to shine in our own way.

You… going all in looks much different than me going all in.

BUT there is a common thread to look for.

I’ll share that in a minute.

First, here’s an example of going “all in” that I’ve been exposed to lately.

I’ve been listening to David Goggins book “Never finished”. If you’re not familiar with Goggins he’s a lunatic in the best sense.

He pushes his body to extreme physical limits regularly. He’s run multiple 100 & 240-mile races.

I don’t believe I’ve run 100 miles in my life, and this guy does it in under 2 days.

And he does it with knees his doctor says shouldn’t be run on.

This guy and his style are not for everyone.

It’s likely he’d be too much of a drill sergeant in your ears. He curses, and he can be harsh in his delivery.

For me, I appreciate his style and the crazy depths he goes to in order to live his best life. I find it motivating.

I’m pretty sure Tara wouldn’t resonate.

So why did I bring him up when his version of going all in is nowhere near what your version of going all in is?

That’s exactly why. I don’t know what it looks like for you to go all in.

But I know that regardless of your goals, dreams, or desires, going “all in” takes devotion.

That’s what Tara and I spoke a lot about on our car ride back home this weekend.

Are you devoted to moving towards your goals?

Even when it’s hard. Or cold out. Or he said no. Or you’re tired. Or they didn’t offer you the job. Or whatever!

In her infinite wisdom Tara keyed in on the thing that connects people who are going all in. It’s the devotion.

If you have that, then you likely feel like you’re living your purpose.

In complete transparency I’m not fully devoted in some areas of my life.

But the awareness and recognition that it’s a key gives me something to use as a benchmark.

You can ask yourself…

Is this behavior aligned with being devoted to xyz dream?

Which one of these actions most aligns with being devoted to xyz desire?

You can use questions like these to help calibrate you in the direction that most serves you.

We’re here once again. You made it to the “almost bottom” of the email.

I appreciate you.

Be good.

Dave “going all in” Marino

PS. If you have any topics you would like to hear my thoughts on you can always hit respond to the email and I’ll consider your input.

PPS. Being in the car with Tara for 6 hours has a lasting impact on me.

Her new Moi program consists of 9 live modules and it starts on April 4th. If you’re called you’ll receive support and time with Tara on the trainings and in the private FB group.

ALSO: Whenever you’re ready… here are more ways Elegant Femme can support you.

  1. Tara’s next live program – Moi A Love Story
    A brand new program starting on April 4th. If you struggle prioritizing you, then Moi can help you shift out of that pattern. You can learn about it here
  2. The Beautiful Soul Led Podcast
    Listen in as Tara shares her insights with you weekly. Available on all podcast platforms. New episodes will commence in April. You can catch up on episodes here
  3. Women Living Fully Facebook group
    Elegant Femme’s free group filled with like minded women who are committed to their growth and evolution. Plenty of free programs and resources in the “guides section. You can join here
  4. Tara Paris
    Beautifully crafted clothing made in Italy and designed by Tara. You can check out the collection here

Dave Marino


Dave Marino fell in love with a girl when he was 24. After a shotgun wedding, he grew and evolved... He was stretched along the way by the original Elegant Femme, Tara Marino. Through a stroke of unforeseeable circumstances, he began writing newsletters and now a blog for Elegant Femme which covers his thoughts, struggles, & life lessons learned. Follow him on Instagram @thedavemarino. One day he may decide to post on there. 

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