I forget that I’m in control of this

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This past weekend Tara and I drove to South Carolina to watch Dominic play his first spring-season soccer game with his college team.

We enjoyed our conversations and listening to books during the 6-hour drive there and back.

It was great to get out of our environment, and we got to see Dom, which is always a treat. (Can you believe we forgot to get a picture?)

But today, I paid the price for getting home later on Sunday and ultimately getting to bed much later than I intended.

And I ended up waking up considerably later than I normally do.

Usually, I’m up at 7 am.

If I’m honest with myself, I’d like to move that up to 6 am (maybe earlier). But that’s another email.

This morning when I looked at my clock, and it said 9:30 am, I got mad at myself.

Mad, I didn’t take a melatonin right when I went to bed. Mad, I looked at my phone for a few mins in bed before closing my eyes.

But then I remembered something that I try to tap into whenever my day gets started on the wrong foot.

We have the ability to start over at any given moment.

We CAN turn on a dime and change how we show up. How we see the world. What we believe we are capable of.

Often we think of the New Year as the day we make big changes. Or perhaps on our birthday. Or when we move to a new home, town, or country.

But those events are made up in our heads to be magical when in fact, they are just another day. Just another minute of a day.

Don’t get me wrong, if you want to make changes on those days or during those events, I’m all for it.

But I want to free your mind from the constraints of having to wait for those special occasions to make a change.

So today, when I woke up late and was pissed at myself, I could have stayed pissed.

I could have had it negatively affect my day. My week. My whatever.

But I remembered a mental trick that I read a while back that helps me shift my beliefs around how quickly we can change.

This “trick” is rooted in science.

They say the body’s cells regenerate every 39 days. If true, this means we are constantly re-inventing ourselves.

** Only read this next section if you’re a doctor. **

As a doctor, you know the truth is it’s our skin cells that regenerate in 39 days. Some of our other cells live on for decades+.

But for the purpose of this trick to work, we have to suspend disbelief for the non-doctors reading this. And you too.

Just because you’re a doctor doesn’t mean this won’t work for you! It works for all of us.

** Back to the email for non-doctors **

So I like to remind myself of how powerful our bodies are. How we are constantly regenerating cells EVERY day.

This gives me permission to recognize that I can change myself… change my beliefs in an instant.

You can change yourself. Change your beliefs, your attitudes, and your perspective in a minute.

You have this power inside.

We just have to be aware and remember we have the ability to self-actualize new versions of ourselves at any given moment.

You can do this. You got this!

We’re here to support you on your path anyway we can.

Whether it’s through my daily emails… or Tara’s social media posts (coming back in April) or her podcast or a live upcoming program like Moi…

We’re here to help you soar.

I’m grateful to have you here.

Be good.

Dave “Not a Doctor” Marino

ALSO: Whenever you’re ready… here are more ways Elegant Femme can support you.

  1. Tara’s next live program – Moi A Love Story
    A brand new program starting on April 4th. If you struggle prioritizing you, then Moi can help you shift out of that pattern. You can learn about it here
  2. The Beautiful Soul Led Podcast
    Listen in as Tara shares her insights with you weekly. Available on all podcast platforms. New episodes will commence in April. You can catch up on episodes here
  3. Women Living Fully Facebook group
    Elegant Femme’s free group filled with like minded women who are committed to their growth and evolution. Plenty of free programs and resources in the “guides section. You can join here
  4. Tara Paris
    Beautifully crafted clothing made in Italy and designed by Tara. You can check out the collection here

Dave Marino


Dave Marino fell in love with a girl when he was 24. After a shotgun wedding, he grew and evolved... He was stretched along the way by the original Elegant Femme, Tara Marino. Through a stroke of unforeseeable circumstances, he began writing newsletters and now a blog for Elegant Femme which covers his thoughts, struggles, & life lessons learned. Follow him on Instagram @thedavemarino. One day he may decide to post on there. 

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